Just another tricky day
Well, my nephew is no longer on the ‘do right ranch’ and he sounds great. He’s asking us to be patient with him as he makes his choices. He said this on the phone while he was playing video games with a kid who got him in trouble in the first place. I hold my breath every time I hear that he’s had any contact with this kid. The thing is, the kid’s mom and I used to chat. It seemed like we had the same values. I didn’t know that she and her ‘husband’ were pot smokers of the ‘cheech and chong’ variety. Well, maybe not that bad, but they did smoke and to me, that’s just plain irresponsible. When my kid took the fall for her kid, she did nothing. When I called her on it, she waffled. Too bad. Hmm, MY kid made a stupid choice. These two have been friends since kindergarten or first grade. It’s been so long that I can’t remember. His mother is clearly enabling him. She points a finger at my kid, but hers is just an undercover thug who hides behind her skirt when he finds himself in trouble. I’m uneasy that my ’son’ is at their home right now.
I’m nervous that he’s going to fall for his friend’s bullshit. The main challenge here is in me trusting in G-d’s ability to touch lives. I live on faith. It’s sort of second nature, but right now, in this moment, I am overwhelmed. It’s wonderful to know that I can call my kid whenever I wish and that he can get in touch with me and we can laugh or just ‘be’…but there’s that little ‘thing’ nagging at me. I’ve just got to trust that my kid will know enough to move away from that environment. Trust that he’s going to follow through with his plans. He wants to get a job and has an interview tomorrow. He wants to move forward and to achieve his goals. He sounds positive. He KNOWS he’s loved.
Stop holding your breath, Pfunk. Breathe.
I will take my own advice today. Like it says in the song, ‘this is no social crisis, just another tricky day for you’ and the ice he’s skating on is getting thinner, but I’ve got faith that he’ll make it to the shore.
July 12th, 2007 at 5:33 am
Praying that your nephew makes the right choices. I know from personal experience how difficult it is to watch a loved one learn to make better choices.
July 12th, 2007 at 12:29 pm
Thanks. It’s in the hands of my pal upstairs now.
Hopefully, my nephew is in the place to understand his choices and the impact they have.
He sounds positive and happy right now. I would feel happier if he would move down to NC, though.
One day at a time…
July 12th, 2007 at 3:45 pm
Still thinking of you and your nephew. I hope that his time in the “pokie” will reflect on his future decisions.
Love ya girl.